Love Me, Love You, Love Us! Resources on Healthy Relationships

 

Sometimes, you just need more!  Below are resources for youth and adults working with youth... don't be afraid to ask for help. 

Community Resources (Boston Area):  These are organizations we have worked with in the past that are great organizations and resources for youth!  We tried to list a contact for each organization to help facilitate you reaching out.  Just mention us!

·         Whittier Street Health Center- provides training and support for youth programs on reproductive health.  They are awesome and provide bilingual training!  Contact: Toriano Johnson, Youth Services Coordinator; www.wshc.org

• Boston Area Rape Crisis Center (BARCC )-Provides services to survivors of rape and sexual assault, their friends and family.  Contact: Stacey Lantz, Community Awareness and Outreach Coordinator; www.barcc.org/

·         Hyde Square Task Force- provide sexual education training and leading campaign to access condoms in Boston Public Schools.  Contact: Ana Almeida, Youth Development Programs Manager; www.hstf.org

 

·       Start Strong Initiative of the Boston Public Health Commission- youth leadership group, provides a great peer exchange and training on healthy relationship topics.  Contact: Jess Alder, Project Manager.  They also have a blog!  Check them out: http://healthybostonblog.wordpress.com/

·         Theatre Offensive- provides performances based on the LGBTQ youth experience.  A great interactive way to start a dialogue!  Contact: Magda Spasiano, Programs Manager; www.theatreoffensive.org

·         Boston GLASS-  New England’s first (and the country’s fourth) community center serving young people in the gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender community.  Contact: Ismael Rivera, Program Director.  http://www.jri.org/services/health-hiv-lgbtq-services/health-and-prevention-services/boston-glass

·         IMPACT- personal safety, assertiveness and self-defense training program.  Contact: Meg Stone, Director;  www.impactboston.org

 

·         Close to Home- Domestic Violence Prevention Initiative; www.c2home.org

 

Online Resources:

·www.sexetc.org– AWESOME resource for youth. It is a website created by youth specifically for youth and covers every theme and topic ever related to sexual health. Youth Leaders can use as a guide when creating their blog!

·Planned Parenthood- available to provide counseling and referrals to services regarding sexual health.

 

For Adults Working with Youth:

Reference Resources:

· www.fhi360.org- This is a great resource in general for youth with some more research based information (studies and results of certain practices, baseline information for certain implementation of sexual health promotion).

· www.prch.org/resources-arshep- Physicians for Reproductive Choice and Health. They provide online downloads of various lessons in PowerPoint format.

 

Curriculum Resources:

· www.plannedparenthood.org– Has resources for educators on teaching effective sexual health curriculum. Also provides multiple curricula and resources (printable)

· King County (Seattle Public Schools) has a very well-developed curriculum for the high schools- FLASH lesson plans http://www.kingcounty.gov/healthservices/health/personal/famplan/educators/FLASH.aspx

§ Includes letters for parents (multi-lingual)

§ Includes curriculum modules and lesson

 

 

Last, but not least, Sociedad Latina's Health Educators in Action program!  Check us out at www.sociedadlatina.org!

 

Dating Advice

Remember that respect precedes love. Build it stone upon stone.

Inspirational Quotes:

Dating tip:

Be original. The more you show that you can put together a whole date by yourself, and just have fun, will attract anyone. (For males) Have flowers, and make sure that you have a separate bunch for the mother. For the father, greet with a strong handshake and politely ask if you can take his daughter out. (For females) Don't dress too provocatively, you don't want to send out the wrong message,plus, every guy loves a female that can dress well. MOST IMPORTANTLY!!!!!!!! Both people should have fun you don't want to go on a boring date. Go to the beach, watch the sunset, do something adventurous. :)
Marcus Thompson and Jenn Then (Part of the SL Bloggers Team)

Relationship advice:

 When a person fights with all their might to renew a past relationships, and the other person doesn't give them a chance, give up on that person and move on. No matter how long it took you guys to get to that point, it's obvious that that person doesn't want nor deserve a great person like you.
-Marcus Thompson (Part of the SL Blogger Team)

Inspirational quote:

“Accept responsibility for your life. Know that it is you who will get you where you want to go, no one else.” – Les Brown
http://addicted2success.com/quotes/37-inspirational-quotes-that-will-change-your-life/

Family Guy

Lois and Peter Griffin

• There is constant disrespect between them as well as towards/from their kids.
• Lois respects the relationship and its boundaries, but Peter is much more liberal and treats the relationship as a joke.

Healthy?

This relationship is not healthy because there are boundaries that are broken between them. The responsibilities of parents should be equally divided and gone about properly in order to raise their children correctly.  Peter does not  do his fair share; therefore,he is a huge reason why this relationship is unhealthy. His relationship with his daughter is also unhealthy because he does not help her raise her self esteem by criticizing Megan for being smart. He treats his dog with more respect than he does to his wife, and looks at his wife only as a sexual object.  He treats Lois as a stereotypical house women by holding her responsible for all the house chores including cooking, caring for Stewie, and cleaning.  

Reflected in society?

This type of relationship is reflected in society because there are  men that  do not give women the value that they deserve.  There are also families in which the father figure is more of a negative influence than they are of a support, and overall I believe a mother is better at fulfilling the parental role than a father can.

Perpetuate unhealthy relationship stereotypes?

Yes these negative stereotypes are current in society. The show makes it seem as if a women is the only person responsible for the house work when a man should part-take in it also. This show, shows how fathers lack the ability to have an accurate grip on how to speak to and treat daughters.

Dating advice:

Relationship Quote:

"Being single doesn’t mean you don’t know anything about love, it just means you know enough to wait for it." 

Inspirational Quotes:

Inspirational quote

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Dating Tips:

"Extending the same concept, keep in mind that virtually every dating relationship that continues for a year or more and seems to be moving toward marriage will be given the ultimate test. A breakup will occur, motivated by only one of the lovers. The rejected individual should know that their future together depends on the skill with which he or she handles that crisis. If the hurting individual can remain calm, the next two steps may be reconciliation and marriage. It often happens that way. If not, then no amount of pleading will change anything."
http://drjamesdobson.org/Solid-Answers/Answers?a=2a580768-9fa1-44cc-8009-9fe194c80b4b

The mistakes made in building a relationship can make it stronger if the two people can handle the situation with calmness and be level headed. When the situation is hyped by anger and vengeance for the pain that was caused, then more likely than not the relationship will not get very far.

Inspirational picture:

http://xaxor.com/creative/creative-inspirational-quotes-thoughts-part-9-.html/attachment/creative-inspirational-quotes-thoughts-part9-10

Love quote:

 

i carry your heart with me

By

e.e. cummings

i carry your heart with me

(i carry it in my heart)

i am never without it

(anywhere i go, my dear; and whatever is done by only me is doing, my darling)

i fear no fate

(for you are my fate, my sweet)

i want no world

(for beautiful you are my world, my true)

and it’s you are whatever a moon has always meant and whatever a sun will always sing is you here is the deepest secret nobody knows

(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud and the sky of the sky of a tree called life; which grows higher than the soul can hope or mind can hide)

and this is the wonder that’s keeping the stars apart i carry your heart

(i carry it in my heart)

http://www.familyfriendpoems.com/famous/poem/i-carry-your-heart-with-me-by-ee-cummings

Online dating tip:

10. Be graceful with rejection: As I said in Tip #9, dating is discouraging. I hear men say all the time that online dating is not fair because the male/female ratio is so skewed. Men tell me all the time they hardly ever receive responses to their messages, while women’s inboxes are completely inundated with messages every day. I don’t have enough data to back that statement up, and, honestly, I don’t feel that I need any data to back that statement up. Obviously men’s experiences with online dating have made them feel this way, regardless of data. So how do you deal with this problem?
Accept the harsh reality of online dating and make it your mission to be graceful with rejection. You can’t change the landscape, so why let it drive you to bitterness? You’re better than that. As I said before, you’re going to get discouraged. That’s only natural. But don’t allow yourself to remain in that state, and don’t allow that discouragement to affect the way you interact with people on the site you’re using. We’re all guilty of it; I’m guilty of it. Let’s all vow to be better.

http://goodmenproject.com/sex-relationships/10-tips-for-using-online-dating-sites-to-find-long-term-love/

Dating Tip

:

“saying no to someone is a sign of knowing your place, don't fear saying no if you find it necessary”

-Jenn

Love quote:

 

“Being deeply loved by someone  gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage”

Lao Tzu

http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/topics/topic_love.html

Inspirational quote:

 

“Difficulties are meant to rouse, not discourage. The human spirit is to grow strong by conflict.”

~ William E. Channing ~

http://www.motivationalwellbeing.com/motivational-sayings.html

Relationship Tip:

 

How much he makes you laugh is more important than how much he makes -- or even how much he makes you happy in bed.

http://www.lhj.com/relationships/divorce/dating-tips/the-20-rules-of-dating-for-grown-ups/

Just for Laughs...

http://www.iheartyu.com/

Inspirational Quote:

 

The greatest thing you'll ever learn

Is to love and be loved in return.

~ From "Unforgettable with Love" by Natalie Cole

http://www.romantic-lyrics.com/lovequotes.shtml

 

Inspirational Quote:

What lies behind us, and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.

~ by Ralph Waldo Emerson ~

http://www.romantic-lyrics.com/lovequotes.shtml

CNN Steubenville Rape

After watching this video, many realities of our generation were revealed. Innocent high school parties are no longer as safe as we thought. To our astonishment getting too drunk is not the only worry. Today’s generations face many additional dangers including sexual assault and media exposure. Our generation needs a reality check. If something as horrific as this is allowed at one party, what can happen at other parties ? We need to really lock down on un-watched parties, and teenagers that are not conscious of good choices. As a group of 6, we thought that we should split up and articulate our different point of views.We will analyze the girls position in the case.

People in favor that the girl has partial fault state:

She is an under-aged juvenile that should not have been intoxicated or even possess alcohol. She should have thought about the consequences that result from drinking and the risks that it causes. Why drink so much at a party knowing that anything can happen and you won't be able to give consent or remember? It is vital to be in complete control of one’s mental stability in order to make the correct choices.

People in favor that the girl should not be blamed:

Parents should take this as a precaution, we hope that they will watch their kids more closely. Parents should make sure that their children get to their houses at an appropriate time. We should not focus on the faults the girl carries because of her choices, but more importantly on the injustice committed upon her.

How to prevent being the victim at a party:

1. Make sure you space out your drinks.Only have one sip of alcohol every 10 minutes.
2. Make sure you stay with friends at parties.
3. Make sure that at least one person at the party is sober.
4. Have an emergency contact ready if needed. Make sure your phone is always charged.
5. Make sure you stay conscious and aware of your surroundings.

CNN news report:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8--ccFWUhBg

Love Quote:

Be careful if you make a woman cry, because God counts her tears. The woman came out of a man’s ribs. Not from his feet to be walked on, not from his head to be superior, but from his side to be equal, under the arm to be protected, and next to the heart to be loved.
http://www.coolnsmart.com/love_quotes/

Dating Quote:

Never be taken for granted even if it hurts, leave.

-Rodney

Inspirational Quote:

Don't dwell in the past or think about the future live in the present moment

-Norberto

inspirational quote:

We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them
-Albert Einstein

Dating Tips:

Honesty is the best policy

Inspirational quote:

"Stop looking for the reasons you are not happy. Focus on you and the reasons that do make you happy" -K&W

Whats this about?

We will use this blog to educate people on how to have a healthy relationship AND maintain it. also we will be discussing the 5 types of abuse that make a relationship UNhealthy. Videos will be posted up from our youth at Sociedad Latina giving lessons or workshops on health iniquties. We hope you guys find these tips helpful. Thank you for viewing our blog !